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Keep on reading:Battle Hymn of The Tiger Mother(P32-48)  

2011-09-26 21:49:37|  分类: English reading |  标签: |举报 |字号 订阅

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My parents had said to me:be modest,be humble,be simple,my mother used to chide."The last shall come first."One of my father's bedrock principles was,"Never complain or make excuses.If something seems unfair at school,just prove yourself by working twice as hard and being twice as good."

    Finally,I tried to demand as much respect from the girls as my parents did of me.This is where I was least successful.growing up,I was terrified of my my parents' disapproval.Not so with Sophia and LuLu.America seems to convey something to kids that Chinese culture doesn't.In Chinese culture,it just wouldn't occur to children to question,disobey,or talk back to their parents.In American culture.kids in book,Tv shows,and movies constantly score points with their snappy backtalk and independent streaks.Typically,it's the parents who need to be taught a life lesson-by their children.

   About piano learning:The Suzuki method was perfect for Sophia?what is the so called:Suzuki method?I am interested in it

    With me at her side,Sophia practiced at least ninety minutes every day,including weekends.On lesson days,we practiced twice as long.I make Sophia memorize everything,even if it wasn't required,and I never paid her a penny.That's how we blasted through those Suzuki books.

    This seems like a good time to get something off my chest.The truth is,it wasn't always enjoyable for Sophia to have  me as a mother.According to Sophia,here are three things I actually said to her at the piano as I supervised her practicing:

1.Oh my God,you're just getting worse and worse.

2.I'm going to count to three,then I want musicality!

3.If the next time's not Perfect,I'm going to take all you stuffed animals and burn them!

What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun untill you're good at it.To get good at anything you have to work,and children on their own never want to work,which is why it is crucial to override their preferences.This often requires fortitude on the part of the parents because the child will resist;things are always hardest at the beginning,which is where Western parents tend to give up.But if done properly,the Chinese stragegy produces a virtuous circle.Tenacious practice,practice,practice is crucial for excellence;rote repetition is underrated in America.Once a child starts to excel at something-whetherit's math,piano,pitching,or ballet--he or she gets prasie,admiration,and satisfaction.This builds confidence and makes the once not-fun activity fun.This in turn makes it easier for the parent to get the child to work even more.

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