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Keep on reading'Battle Hymn of The Tiger Mother'P76-116  

2011-10-01 22:37:17|  分类: English reading |  标签: |举报 |字号 订阅

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I was pround and glad that Jed and I had taken Florence in ,the Chinese way,and that the girls had witnessed us doing it.I was also proud and glad that Sophia and Lulu had helped take care of Floerence.But with the words"love to be happy"and full happiness"ringing in my head,I also wondered whether down the road if I were sick,the girls would take me into their homes and do the same for me?---or whether they would opt for happiness and freedom.

Happiness isn't not a concept I tend to dwell on.chinese parenting does not address happiness.This has always worried me.When I see the piano--and violin--induced calluses on my daughters' fingertips,or the teeth marks on the piano,I'm sometimes seized with doubt

But there's the thing.When I look around at all the Western families that fal apart--all the grown sons and daughters who can't stand to be around their parents or don't even talk to them---I have a hard time believing that Western parenting does a better job with happiness.It's amazing how many older Western parents I've met who've said,shaking their heads sadly,"As a parent you just can't win.No matter what you do,you kids will grown up resenting you."

By constrast,I can't tell you how many Asian kids I've met who,while acknoeledging how oppressively strict and brutally demanding their parents were,happily describe themselves as devoted to their parents and unbelievably grateful to them.seemigly without a trace of bitterness or resentment.

"That's nice,Sophia,"I said coldly,"but not good enought either.When I was your age,I wrote poems for my mother on her birthday.I got up early and cleaned the house and made her breakfast.I tried to think of creative ideas and made her coupons that said thing like"One free car wash'

When Jed saw the cashed checks,he couldn't believe his eyes.I told him we'd make up for it by not going out to dinner all summer and not buying new clothes."Also,"I said hopefully,"there is the advance you just got for your novel."

That's one difference between a dog and a daughter,I thought to myself later.A dog can do something every dog can do--dog paddle,for example--and we applaud with pride and joy.Imagine how much easier it would be if we could do the same with daughters!But we can't;that would be negligence.

I love being able to count on Sophia.She has wells of inner strength.Even more than me,she can take anything:exclusion,excoriation,humiliation,loneliness.

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